DEALING WITH ANGER
Anger is a feeling that makes your mouth work faster than your mind. –
-It is a normal human emotion. We all get mad at times. It is how we deal with it that is important. Feeling angry is a natural part of life but staying mad & upset all the time can be harmful to you. It can cause your blood pressure & heart rate to rise and make your heart work harder. It can also cause chest pain because blood vessels gets narrow, reducing blood and oxygen to the heart.
-Many EDS patients feel angry & upset about what is happening to them. Their lives have been turned upside down. The last 2 years has brought a anger out in me that I have to fight everyday. At first I lost my temper with everyone especially Jim. I stayed upset with myself because I couldn’t do the things I love to do anymore. I had to depend on someone else to do a lot of things for me…I was getting mad at my family because they didn’t understand what I was going through… I knew that I had to get in control of those feelings.
You may not realize that you are getting mad. Some people aren’t aware they are often angry or they deny they have a problem. If this is the case with you, ask a family member or friend who knows you well, if this happening. If you have problems with anger and hostility, you can get help. Talk your doctor about a anger or stress management programs in your community. Here are some things I do to help with my anger. Maybe it will help you to.
In pain management I have to write in a journal telling how I feel physically & emotionally that day. I write how I react to my feelings. I have learned to recognize when these feelings are triggering an angry reaction. There was several times I wrote on a piece of paper why I was so angry, read it then torn it up. After I did that, it seem the angry went away.
I am learning to think before I speak. It's easy to say something you'll later regret. Take a few moments to collect your thoughts before saying anything — and allow others involved in the situation to do the same.
I am learning to be more understanding. I try to put myself in another person’s place & view with love & concern what they are going through. Me, myself & I have long talks…. I try to find something positive in a negative situation….
When I get angry I take a “timeout.” I step back, take several deep breaths & calm myself down. I move away from the problem until I can handle it.
I had to learned to control how I reacted physically when I got mad. I stopped sighing, speaking loudly, throwing things & shaking my fist or pointing my finger.
Remind yourself that anger won't fix anything and might only make it worse.You have to learn to control your angry before it controls you…
Until next time…..God bless